1,190 miles apart.

And I somehow feel closer to her than I have in a long time. Every time I go out with my sister, someone asks us if we are twins, something that we are so accustomed to since we are in fact twins. The typical follow-up questions are the cheeky “Who’s the good twin?” and “Who’s the quiet one?” But the question that resonates with me the most is “Do you have twin telepathy?” It seems like such a ridiculous concept, but contemplating the matter, I do believe that we have telepathic powers in a strange way. While it is certainly not the way Hollywood or TV shows portray the dynamic, certainly it is something extraordinary that only twins can understand. Of course, we are not able to communicate test answers to each other or know exactly what the other is thinking at a certain point in time, but the bond that we share is like no other.

When I fractured my elbow in the second grade, peers constantly asked Jenni if she felt the excruciating pain. Thank goodness, no! However, we can both say that we sense each other’s emotions. During our high school years and college experiences, we have spent almost every day together. Interestingly, we both happen to be finance majors at the University of Georgia, so consequentially, we have many of the same classes, our lunch schedules coincide, and we naturally gravitate towards each other out of habit and convenience. In addition, we also live together along with two other roommates. We clearly always have an idea of what is going on in the other’s life since we spend many hours together in our normal daily routines. During the moments in which we have been apart, I have felt intense feelings of happiness or sharp pangs of sadness without reason. Later, I have found out that I am experiencing Jenni’s respective emotions, and the opposite is true as well.

The ultimate test of truly knowing whether we had a strong sense of each other’s emotions was when Jenni moved to Minneapolis for a 10-week internship.

10 weeks.

Now, that’s a long time, especially considering that we were together in the womb for 9 months and developed an intimate, inseparable bond ever since. I knew that being apart for so long would be a challenge for both of us, as we have historically been quite dependent on each other for support. During the first week of both of our summer internships, I withdrew myself from friends and family, as I honestly felt miserable. I avoided talking about my work and dodged all questions addressing it. Jenni noticed that something was off. Ultimately, I never told her anything about my experience and how I felt like a fish out of water in a field that I did not care for at all. I made the decision to resign from my position without telling her because I did not want to worry her or cause her to feel any distress when she was obviously powerless to help me with my situation.

When I finally had the courage to tell her that I resigned from my position, she told me that she was not surprised at all. She felt intense levels of discomfort and felt out of place without knowing why. She obviously was adjusting to her new environment in Minneapolis but could not explain feelings of dread and misery that she periodically felt. I knew that she had been feeling the emotions that I had experienced during my internship. Knowing that Jenni somewhat understood how I was feeling gave me a sense of relief and consolation. Knowing that despite being almost 2000 miles apart, we could still empathize with each other was a beautiful feeling.

During the past month since my resignation from my summer position, I have been searching to fill an emptiness that I was feeling from a lack of passion for my career. My twin has supported me throughout these struggles and has given me words of encouragement throughout this difficult, uncomfortable, and at times painful process. This week, I noticed that I was feeling upbeat and rejuvenated, eager to read and write for fun, something that was much-needed but I had not done for years. This week truly has been a turning point for me. However, suddenly, on the Fourth of July, I felt an indescribable amount of emotional pain and was wondering

Where is this coming from?

My instinct told me that something with Jenni was not right. The following day, I received a phone call from Jenni, which really surprised me, because I am typically the one to call her first. I dropped everything that I was doing at that moment because I felt that she needed me and urgently. Sure enough, she was in tears, and I had correctly suspected what the matter was with her situation. The dynamic that we have is something felt on such a deep level; we are always connected, as we share the same DNA and have very similar life experiences. In a way, feeling her emotions makes me feel hopeless because no matter what I say or do, I know there really is nothing that I can do for her other than give her consoling words and a hug when she is there with me.

While these responses do help the other person to feel supported and loved, it certainly does not alleviate the pain that the other is feeling.

After our conversation, I felt guilty that there was nothing I could do in the moment to make her feel better. I couldn’t leave my work and take a plane to visit her in Minneapolis; even if I could, my mere presence wouldn’t solve her problems. All I could do was hope and pray that with time, she would feel better, and she will.

That night, I had an interesting idea. I sent Jenni a post of a leg work-out that I had found and challenged her to perform the exercises with me. While it may seem silly, I felt Jenni’s presence while I was working out and felt more motivation because I knew she was doing it with me. It was a peaceful way to end the day, and after feeling each other’s strong emotions, the work-out was a metaphorical way in which we communicated to each other that we would grow stronger amid our circumstances.

[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]https://twinsmagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/AileenVezeau-cropped.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]Aileen Vezeau is a fourth-year finance and Spanish student at the University of Georgia. She is passionate about volunteering in the Athens community as a Spanish interpreter at a health clinic and at elementary schools. During her free time, she enjoys playing volleyball, soccer, and of course spending time with her twin!

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Twins and then some

As all twin parents know, this isn’t a walk in the park. This twin parenting stuff requires prowess, strength, resilience and a good sense of humour. For some of us though, there’s an additional spike in the daily workload and pressure of life. Bringing twins into a house with other kids is not for the faint-hearted. It’s a phenomenally challenging job, one that requires planning, compromise and on many days, a simple smile and graceful acceptance of defeat.

I hope this provides some practical, achievable tips for coping with the extra pressure the school year brings.

New term, new promises, new realities

As the leaves turn golden and the nights grow cooler, the new school year offers the annual promise of new beginnings and hope to parents. This is the year we won’t miss a beat, we’ll make school on time every day, we’ll never forget a pack up, a trip or a test. They’ll be tumble free, drama free, without angst or fear. We will greet our happy, confident, curious kids every day and hear their bright and brilliant stories of the adventures school brings. And most importantly, we will meet all their needs. They won’t be compromised by the addition of twins. They won’t resent the time the twins take up but instead see the joy in every step of this journey.

Yeah. Good luck with that. As Halloween approaches, for many of us moms of multiples, the wheels are already falling off of that rosy outlook. Last night it took all my strength to smile as I was trying to help my 9-year-old with his mental arithmetic homework. Dusting off my rusty old brain cells was a sizeable enough task. Throw in bouncing a baby on one knee, using the other leg to keep another from eating the biscuits in the dog bowl and trying to show appropriate praise for my 5-year-old daughters homespun (and incredibly loud) production of The Greatest Showman… well, come on. Seriously. Is this for real?

Somehow as ever, we all survived. Despite some slight friction and debate, in the end, each child got from their A to their B. Everyone was fed, washed and snuggled up in bed. Albeit some more compromised than others.

So today we regroup. We revisit some of the self-taught mantras that help in times of stress. We accept that we must have rough with the smooth. We remember that we are warriors. We were given this job because we can champion it. We remember that with a little planning and thought, we can show them all our affection. Most of all we remember that love will out.

If you wake some days with a faint fear of what lies ahead, try some of these simple coping techniques.

Here are 7 tips for coping with school and twins

1. Schedule a 30-minute end of day prep time

At the end of every day, no matter how bad that last shift went, you need to reboot and get organised for tomorrow. Give yourself every head start possible for the following day.

 Make sure you have their timetables and homework schedules on the fridge. Check what kit, homework and ‘stuff’ you’re meant to have lined up by the front door.
 Make any packed lunches before bed.
 Get your own clothes out for the next day. You can calmly control your decisions when everyone has gone to bed. Getting your head around a simple thing like what to wear can make a huge difference in your confidence and starting attitude for the day.

 Lay their clothes by their doors and get each child their own hook in the hallway, making sure their hats, shoes, bags are ready to scoop up as you leave.
 Check and reload your baby bag. Get baby clothes, nappies, any baby equipment ready to go with the older children’s gear.

Don’t take more than 30 minutes over this. You can do it. Tidy, organise, prepare and then stop.

2. Give yourself permission

Give yourself permission to take some smart shortcuts. You will be forgiven for cheating on the home-made bread, cakes and flapjacks for a while. You can punch in name labels rather than sew. You can skip sending your donations to the cake bake this term. You can lean on friends for a lift to school.

Give yourself permission to be less than perfect for a while, to take a helping hand and to opt out from things from time to time.

3. Spot gaps and make changes

If you step back and take a practical, dispassionate look at the separate processes in your day, it’ll be easier to see those that are working and those that need improvement. Remove the emotion from the equation and work out all the processes involved in getting from the start of the day to the end. This may include the school run, feeding the babies, taking the dog out, running the grocery errands, picking up from school, running to clubs etc. We all have our ways of getting things done, some of which will be working well, some which are barely functioning and some which just go to pot every day.

Take a solution-based approach and work out how to plug the gaps. Nothing needs to be permanent because let’s face it, once you’ve got it nailed, a logistic will change, a club will be added to the list or a child will U-turn on you for no expected reason. However, think about the here and now and what you need to do to make each process function best.

Do you have friends with teenage children who could help you with a homework buddy system for an hour a day, or mind one child while you run another to a club? Can you throw your dog on a neighbour’s dog walk for a little while or take the stroller with you for the dog walks? Can you get a friend to do pick up on allotted days? Can you swap dinner times with a friend so that you both gain from a child-free window when your schedule needs it?

Try it, make a few tweaks so that you can even out the load and operate more efficiently.

4. Create daily 1 on 1 time

It’s a fact you are acutely aware of, but every child in the mix needs you, and they need you in different ways. It’s easy to focus on those who shout the loudest, taking the path of least resistance and getting by in whatever way you can. But if you make a promise to give each of the big ones just 10 or 15 minutes before bed, you can rest easy that you’re giving them real quality you time.

Ask them what the best part of the day was. Ask them what tomorrow is going to bring and what they look forward to. Allow them to release the harder parts of every day before bed and recap on what makes life interesting and inspiring.

They won’t clock the time you spend but they’ll find comfort in the consistency of you always saving a little bit of energy and space for them.

5. Don’t throw money (or sugar) at it

It’s easy to feel sorry for the big ones, to get a sense that you are not playing enough, not listening enough, not interesting or even awake enough. But don’t let the guilt lead you to an unhealthy place where you take shortcuts to show you care. You are a good parent; you can make time and you do care. Don’t feel the need to throw more toys or sugary treats to maintain the love, affection and favour of your children.

Kids are resilient. Be consistent and keep good strong values or you’ll spoil them and need to honour this exchange and materialism for a (very) long time.

6. Don’t compare yourselves to others

Everyone else’s lives seem simpler right now. Do not make comparisons, it’ll crush you! You need to get focused on your own shizzle and leave the other parents to it.

I’ve often made the mistake of reading the banter on the school mom group chat and feeling bad about myself. Parents with fewer children have more time to review and debate the issues surrounding their children. They can chit-chat (seemingly endlessly!) about what to put in the school snacks, what to wear on the trips and compare notes on reading levels.

Don’t get sucked into the detail or you’ll end up resenting their space and forcing yourself into a low ebb. Parenting twins is what it is. It’s busy, it’s hard, but it’s also brilliant and rewarding. Just keep afloat and don’t listen to any external chat that can take you off you’re A-game.

7. Pause, smile and reflect

Above all else, take a moment every day to smile about your beautiful brood. Think about the funny things they said and the little quirks they have that make them special. Most people haven’t got a clue about how tough a gig this is. But don’t forget that soon, these bonkers, crazy, muddled up, messed up days will become the ‘the good old days – the moments you struggle to recall a bunch of years from now. One day our hearts will ache to be this important, this busy and this loved.

Remember to reflect and save a little praise for yourself. You are doing a great job. You are a champion. Keep at it tiger, tomorrow is and always will be another fresh day.

About the Author

[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]https://twinsmagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/icon.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]Laura O’Shaughnessy is a mother of four, including one-year-old twin girls. She writes about family, food, society, and life. She lives with her family and faithful sheepdog in Yorkshire, England. https://lauraoshaughnessy.wordpress.com/[/author_info] [/author]

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Breastfeeding twins has many advantages for both the mother and baby.

Breastfeeding strengthens the baby’s immune system and reduces the incidence of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). It is also a great way for mother and child to bond.

Breastfeeding twins can seem overwhelming to a new mom, but thousands of new mothers successfully breastfed their twins every day.

These tips will help you to be successful from day one.

1. Get a Lactation Consultant

As soon as you arrive in your Postpartum room after giving birth, ask to see the Lactation Consultant. As a mother of twins, you will be a priority for her.

She will sit with you and teach you exactly how to get each of your babies to latch correctly onto your breast. Learning how to do this from the very first feeding is important.

If your babies do not latch correctly, breastfeeding twins can be painful and your babies will not be able to feed efficiently.

That is the number one reason responsible for issues with breastfeeding twins.

Nowadays all Lactation Consultants receive training on teaching mothers how to breastfeed twins, so she will be able to help you with different positions and issues particular to twins.

2. Find a Lactation Consultant in Your Area

Before giving birth, you may want to find a lactation consultant in your area, so you can make an appointment to see her once you have been released from the hospital. Many will come out to your home to continue to help you after you leave the hospital.

3. Get in a Comfortable Breastfeeding Position.

The position is very important when breastfeeding twins. There are many positions mothers prefer when breastfeeding twins and there is no one right way.

The positions for breastfeeding twins should allow you to relax your back and neck. Your posture of choice should allow easy digestion while the babies suckle.

You may find a number of positions helpful at different times. The goal is to try different positions until you find the ones that work best for you and your twins.

4. Get a Comfortable Breastfeeding Pillow

Get a special breastfeeding pillow designed for twins.

The My Brest Friend Supportive Nursing Pillow For Twins 0-12 Months, Plus-Size is the most useful breastfeeding pillow for twins.

It is soft and provides plenty of room for both babies. The strap is also awesome, as it keeps the pillow in place while you move your twins around and help them latch on correctly.

Colors: Light Green (Pictured), Dark Grey, Light Grey, Fireworks, and Black and White

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $58.04- $67.99

5. Wear Easy Access Nursing Tops and Nursing Bras.

In the beginning, you will find soft, comfortable 2-in-1 nursing tops with built-in bras to be extremely useful. While you are learning how to nurse twins and your twins are feeding to often, you will find yourself constantly needing to expose your breast to feed. These tops also make it simple to breastfeed both twins at the same time.

Caramel Cantina 3 Pack Women’s Nursing Cami Built-in Bra is a great 2-in-1 soft tank top and nursing bra. You can wear it by itself or under another loose top. It comes in many sizes and colors, thus matching everything. You will want to buy at least a few packs of these because in the beginning, milk will leak and babies will spit up on you.

Colors: Black, White and Charcoal (3 Pack), Navy, Burgundy and Teal (3 Pack), Black (3 Pack)

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $36.99 (Pack of three)

Having plenty of comfortable nursing bras is also important. When your milk supply is first coming in and your twins are learning how to breastfeed, it will messy. You will find yourself often needing to change your bra. You will also need to wear a bra all the time in the beginning because your breasts will leak milk.

Therefore, you will want to have comfortable bras you can wear all day and night.

The 3 PACK Full Bust Seamless Nursing Maternity Bras with Extenders & Clips is the perfect nursing bra bundle.

We recommend you buy at least three of these packs to get started. The extender will be great right after you give birth before you lose your pregnancy and while your milk supply is adjusting. The clips allow you to connect the two straps in the back to hide them when wear tank tops or other sleeveless shirts.

Colors: Black, Pink & Nude (3 Pack), Nude (3 Pack), Black (3 Pack), Black, Grey & Nude (3 Pack)

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $36.99 (Pack of three)

6. Start with One Twin at a Time

As a new parent or one who is having your first pair of twins, it is advisable that you start gradually, with a twin at a time to the breast.

Once each twin is latching properly and you feel comfortable, start trying to feed the other twin at the same time.

Be patient with yourself and know you will master breastfeeding twins at the same time. It is a skill like any other and simply requires practice.

7. Use a Breastpump Only When Necessary

Before you consider using a breast pump, be sure it is needed.

Mothers panic, saying their breasts don’t produce much milk and they are afraid they are not making enough for the twins.

it takes a few days for your milk to come in. The most effective way to establish a strong milk supply is to latch them properly and encourage your twins to feed often.

The woman lactation process actually generates more milk with the demands placed by the suckling mouth(s). Breast pumps are just not as effective at expelling milk from the breast.

In the early days, encourage your twins to breastfeed often. These early days will determine how much milk your body makes. It is a supply and demand system established during the first days. That is also why learning how to latch your twins on is so important from the beginning.

So, before you go for a pumping aid, be sure you need it.

When it is time to begin pumping, we recommend you use the Medela Pump in Style Advanced Double Electric Breast Pump with On the Go Tote.

It is an awesome all-in-one system.

Medela is the most well-known and recommended brand on the market. All of their products come with a lifetime warranty and their service department is excellent.

While the bag this breast pump comes with may not be your first choice, this bundle is a great deal and has everything you will need to immediately begin pumping.

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $190.93

8. Alternate the kids to the breast

Each of the twins might have different appetite and sucking behavior.

Therefore, alternate which twin feeds from each breast with every feeding. A great way to remember which twin fed from each breast is to wear a simple bracelet or hair tie on your wrist. Assign the hair tie to Twin A. After you have completed breastfeeding your twins, move the hair tie to the other wrist. This will tell you that Twin A should feed on that breast during the next feeding.

9. Get Rest

You need as much rest as you can get.

When your newborn twins are sleeping, you should sleep, as well.

Ask friends and family members to keep up with the daily tasks around the house.

In the early days, your task is to heal your body from birth, breastfeed and care for your new twins. That is a full-time job. Everything else can wait.

10. Ask for Help

Neighbors, friends, co-workers, and family are great helpers in the early days. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Hiring a Postpartum Doula is also an excellent choice.

Postpartum Doulas can help you care for your newborn twins, clean your house, cook and help organize the help of others in your life.

11. Eat and Drink Frequently

Think of your body as just recovering from running a marathon.

Labor is exhausting and you have lost a lot of blood. Now you are trying to make food for two little people.

Allow yourself to eat foods you are craving. Your body may need more salt, protein or fats to recover.

In the early days, we drank lots of Ensure High Protein Nutrition Shake with 16 grams of high-quality protein, Meal Replacement Shakes.

We loved them because they did not contain milk and thus did not need to remain refrigerated. We kept them on our nightstand and drank them during the night when we woke up hungry.

Product Details:

Flavors: Chocolate, Strawberry, and Vanilla

Price: $31.94 for 24 8oz Bottles

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Drinking lots of water is one of the best ways to ensure your body will produce enough milk.

Breast milk is composed of 90% water.

During birth and for days after giving birth, your body will lose a lot of blood. Blood is composed mostly of water. Therefore, you will likely be extremely dehydrated.

One of the biggest factors that will affect your milk supply in the early days is your water intake. This is a crucial time as your body is figuring out how much milk to make for your twins. If you are severely dehydrated in the early days, your body will not establish the correct amount of milk supply.

You will probably notice that soon after you begin breastfeeding your twins you will become thirsty. The oxytocin that your body releases during breastfeeding is responsible for triggering your thirst. This is your body’s natural way of ensuring that you are getting enough water to make breast milk.

As soon as you can, begin rehydrating your body. This can easily be done simply with water. During breastfeeding one baby, you should drink an extra quart, or 32 ounces, per day.

12. Start Preparing Before Your Twins Arrive.

Preparation is key. Create a plan now to ensure you will have all of the tools and people in place when your twins arrive.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. People who love you will want to feel needed and your twins will benefit from it, as well.

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When reviewing baby monitors for parents of twins, we kept in mind the specific needs which new parents may have.

Most parents of twins choose to have their babies in the same room, but having a camera pointing at each twin can make monitoring them much easier. So, we included a number of monitors that come standard with two cameras.

All of our recommended baby monitors are great choices and each has advantages over others. We have made sure each of our recommended baby monitors received good reviews and have great customer support histories.

Therefore, you can be assured that any of these baby monitors are high-quality products that will help you keep your twins safe.

Our #1 Recommended Baby Monitor for Twins

There are so many baby monitors on the market.

Choosing the best one can be extremely overwhelming, but we have found one that is just clearly superior. After reading through hundreds of reviews, we have found one baby monitor that parents love.

1. Infant Optics DXR-8 Video Baby Monitor with Interchangeable Optical Lens

This is definitely our number one recommendation. 84% of the customers who reviewed this baby monitor gave it either 4 or 5 stars! With over 24,000 reviews, that says something!

Although this monitor comes with only one camera, it comes with lenses that will allow you to monitor both of your twins at once.

Special Features: Night Vision, Talk-back Function, Room Temperature Sensor, 10 Hour Battery Life, Interchangeable Lenses

Screen Size: 3.5 inches

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $165.95

Amazon Rating:

Here’s a glowing review from a customer:

The Best Baby Monitor that Works with Your Cellphone

Having a baby monitor that works directly with your cell phone is becoming a more frequent choice. This monitor is priced well and has received great reviews with 73% of customers giving it 4 or 5 stars.

2. Cocoon Cam Plus Baby Video and Breathing Monitor

Special Features: Simple Phone App, Breathing Monitor, Text Alerts

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $149.99

Amazon Rating:

Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Monitor Your Babies Breathing– Real-time breathing monitoring and night vision HD video.

★ Sleep Soundly Knowing You’ll Receive Alerts– Notifications will alert you if baby’s breathing changes, baby is crying or beginning to wake. Get the peace of mind you need to rest when your baby does.

★ Approved by Top Pediatricians– IRB-approved studies at Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital Stanford and UC San Diego.

★ No Extra Monitor Needed– See and know your baby is breathing and safe without having to carry a monitor around with you.

★ Secure HD Video Right on your Phone– Instant alerts in our FREE app. SEE, HEAR, AND TALK to your baby right on your phone.

Cons:

• Must Have a Cellphone with Compatible App

• Your Wifi Connection Will Affect How Well the App Works

Best Baby Monitors with Two Cameras

All of these cameras come standard with two cameras. These baby monitors are great for twins who are in separate rooms or are in cribs not close to one another.

3. UBBCARE 2 Video Baby Monitors with Large 3.5″ Display and Night Vision​

Special Features: Large Display, Crisp Video, Plays Music

Screen Size: 3.5 inches

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $114.99

Amazon Rating:

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Beautiful, Crisp Picture with 3.5” SCREEN DISPLAY BABY MONITOR- much clearer image, wider viewing range, sensitive to capturing sound and receiving signals.

★ TWO WAY TALK- Press the parents’ dialogue key, baby will hear your sound at the first time through the two-way talk function to soothe baby’s uneasiness, give baby safety when he cries.

★ 2.4 GHZ DIGITAL SIGNAL MONITORING- Safe without radiation, self-contained receiver, record the sound and movement of your baby anytime.

★ TEMPERATURE SENSOR- keep abreast of the temperature of the baby room, give the baby a comfortable growing up environment.

★ 4 LULLABIES- effectively pacify the baby and help the baby to fall asleep quickly.

Cons:

• Loses signal at times and beeps loudly

4. Babysense Video Baby Monitor with Two Digital Cameras

Special Features: Long Range, Small, Lightweight Device, Lower Priced

Screen Size: 2.4 inches

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $89.99

Amazon Rating:

Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Supplied with Two Cameras – Allows monitoring two rooms or two cameras in one room from one Parent Unit. Simply use the OK button on the parent unit to switch between the paired cameras.

★ 2.4 Inch High-Quality Color LCD Display with Enhanced 2.4GHz FHSS Technology – Provides high definition and stable streaming, secure interference-free connection, and crystal clear digital vision & sound.

★ Two Way Talk Back Communication – Comfort your baby with the sound of your own voice by using the two-way talkback system.

★ Long Range – Up to 900 feet (open space) with out-of-range warning.

★ Rich Features – Auto Infrared Night Vision, Room Temperature Monitoring with High/Low Temperature Alerts, Eco Mode Voice Activation, Sound Activated LED Indicators, Alarm/Timer Setting, 2x Digital Zoom with Digital Image Pan/Tilt option, Multi-Camera Expandability (up to four cameras), Lullabies, Manual Pan (360 degrees) & Tilt (60 degrees), Auto Scan View, Tabletop or Wall Mounting Options.

Cons:

• Beeps loudly when loses connection.

5. MoonyBaby Video Baby Monitor with Two Cameras

Special Features: Long Battery Life, Large Display Screen, 5 Lullabies

Screen Size: 4.3 inches

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $109.99

Amazon Rating:

Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Switch Effortlessly Between Two Cameras- Easily SCAN view or press shortcut button to switch views between paired cameras. Monitor can link up to 4 cameras. (Additional cameras sold separately)

★ 100% DIGITAL WIRELESS SECURED TECHNOLOGY- ensures private and secure connection between the camera and the monitor. The 2.4Ghz interference-free signal works in home between rooms and upstairs/downstairs. No WIFI/INTERNET setup required.

★ TWO WAY TALK BACK- With TALK BACK button, you can talk to your babies when they need you.

★ Extra Long Battery Life- 12 hours in Power Saving Mode, 6 hours in continues video on mode. Zoom in for closer views on screen.

★ RICH FEATURES- Automatic night vision, Baby room temperature monitoring, 5 built-in lullabies, Zoom in and Power saving/Voice activation mode, Multi-Camera Expandability (up to four cameras)

Cons:

• Battery does not last as long as advertised.

• Cameras must remain plugged in. They cannot run on batteries.

In summary, while there are many baby monitors available, we have identified the 5 best options for twins.

We included a one camera option that comes with three lenses to allow you to monitor both of your twins cribs at once.

We also recommended an awesome baby monitor that works directly with your smartphone. That option is great as long as you have a good WiFi connection in your home, apartment or wherever you intend to monitor your twins.

Lastly, we included 3 baby monitors that come standard with 2 video cameras. We included the special features and drawbacks of each.

Comment below and let us know if there is one you feel we should add to our list or if you purchased one of our suggested baby monitors.

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Why These are the Best Car Seats for Twins

Buying safe, durable, and easy to install car seats are every parents desire, but the research process can be very overwhelming.

As parents of twins, we know first-hand how challenging it all can be. Therefore, we have done all the research for you!

We’ve narrowed it down to the very best, while providing you with a few competitive choices.

All of our recommendations for the best car sets for twins met our stringent standards:

• Have Excellent Safety Ratings
• Received Excellent Ratings and Recommendations from Actual Consumers
• Are Affordable
• Can Be Quickly Purchased Online from Our Site

The Best Newborn Infant Car Seats for Twins

We recommend you purchase a car seat that can be separated from its base, while keeping you newborn nestled in the car seat. When infants are extremely young, they spend most of their time sleeping. These car seats will allow you to easily transport you sleeping twins.

We also recommend you buy a Baby Trend Universal Double Snap-N-Go Stroller Frame. This will be the first stroller you use. It is lightweight and compatible with the infant car seats.

Here’s a comparison of the different Graco SnugRide Infant Car Seats:

All use the InRight latch system. It is a game changer!

They have made a one-second connection with the base with its 4-position recline and an easy-to-read level indicator bubble that helps eliminate installation guesswork.

While both of our recommendations are about 2lbs heavier than the other SnugRides, they are the best infant car seats Graco has yet to design.

1. Graco SnugRide SnugLock 35 LX Featuring TrueShield Technology

Not Pictured in Above Table

Weight Recommendation: 4lbs to 35lbs

Colors: 1 Color Available

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $126.97

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– TrueShield Technology helps keep you infant safe by providing advanced protection from head to hips in the event of a side impact.

★ Adjust handle with one hand, leaving your other hand free– With twins, this is an even more helpful feature.

★ Silent Shade canopy easily and quietly adjusts without disturbing baby– Never wake a sleeping baby.

★ InRight LATCH system for a one-second LATCH attachment– Both of our recommendations have this feature. It is a big upgrade from their previous hook system.

★ 4-position adjustable base lets you customize fit to you vehicle– This ensures that the baby will be in the safest position for breathing, no matter the depths of you seats.

★ Easy-to-read level indicator helps eliminate installation guesswork– You will know for certain that the car seat is level, without having to simply guess.

★ Fits into Our Recommended Baby Trend Snap-n-Go Stroller– We recommend every new parent of twins use a Baby Trend Universal Double Snap-N-Go Stroller Frame for you first stroller. These car sets fit perfectly into the frame.

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– A bit heavier than the others.

• Requires a bit of Force to Secure into Base– The car seat securely snaps into the base, but it does require a small bit of doing to snap it in.

2. Graco SnugRide SnugLock 35 Elite Infant Car Seat

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Weight Recommendation: 4lbs to 35lbs

Colors: 3 Colors Available

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $149.98- $188.99

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– The InRight Latch System! Install is super simple.

★ Quick and Easy to Install– SnugLock Technology features a hassle-free 3-step installation rear-facing car seat helps protect infants from 4 to 35 lb and up to 32″ quick and easy clean up with the Rapid Remove cover.

★ Safest Infant Car Seat– Simply Safe Adjust Harness System adjusts headrest and harness together to prevent rethreading Safety Core absorbs frontal crash forces:

• Side Impact Tested*
• New Car Assessment Program (NCAP) – peak crash force approximately 2X Car Seat Standard.
• Extreme Car Interior Temperatures.

*In addition to meeting or exceeding all applicable US safety standards, the Graco SnugRide SnugLock 35 Elite Infant Car Seat has been side impact tested for occupant retention by the harness system.

★ Reclining Base Allows for Great Rest– Adjustable base with 4 recline positions and easy-to-read bubble level indicator InRight LATCH system for a one-second LATCH attachment.

★ Rotating Canopy– Window and visor provides shade and sun protection for baby removable newborn head and body support cushions baby.

★ Fits into Our Recommended Baby Trend Snap-n-Go Stroller– We recommend every new parent of twins use a Baby Trend Universal Double Snap-N-Go Stroller Frame for you first stroller. These car sets fit perfectly into the frame.

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– Can only be used up to 65lbs.

• Requires Force to Secure into Base– The car seat securely snaps into the base, but it does require a bit of strength to snap it in.

The Complete 4 Car Seats in 1 for Twins

If you are looking for ONE car seat that you can use from birth until you twins no longer require a booster seat, this is the best option:

3. Graco 4Ever 4-in-1 Convertible Car Seat

Recommended Weight: 4lbs to 120lbs

Colors: 11 Colors to Choose From

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $239.99- $339.99

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ The Only Car Seat You Will Ever Need– This 4-in-1 Convertible Car Seat gives you 10 years of use from 4lbs to 120 pounds. It can be used as a rear-facing baby car seat from 4lbs to 40 lbs. It can then be used forward-facing for your toddlers car seat from 20 to 65 lbs.

★ The Safest Available– Graco has been a trusted brand for over 100 years. Of all of Graco’s car seats, this is among the very safest. The patented Simply Safe Adjust Harness System is safe and simple to use.

★ Becomes a Booster Seat– High back belt-positioning mode from 30lbs to 100 lbs and backless belt-positioning mode from 40lbs to 120 lbs.

★ Quick and Easy to Secure in Your Vehicle– InRight LATCH system for an easy, 1-second LATCH attachment

★ Machine-washable Seat Cushions–The metal and plastic parts may be cleaned with mild soap and cool water and the buckle may be cleaned with a damp cloth and the harness straps may be spot cleaned.

Cons:

• Headrest Rattles– Some complain the headrest rattles and must be tightened.

The Best Convertible Car Seats for Twins

We believe these are the safest, most durable and most versatile car seats. Each of these has advantages over others. We will help you determine which of these is best for you twins.

Once you twins outgrow their infant car seats, these car seats will change to adjust to the needs of you growing kids.

4. Graco Extend2Fit Convertible Car Seat

Recommended Weight: 5lbs to 65lbs

Colors: 8 Options

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $134.28- $225.61

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– A bit less expensive than others

★ Helps protect rear-facing infants from 4-50 lbs and forward-facing toddlers from 22-65 lbs.

★ 4-position extension panel adjusts to provide 5″ additional leg room allowing you child to ride safely rear-facing longer; Up to 50 pounds rear-facing allowing you child to ride safely rear-facing for longer.

★ 6-position recline helps keep you child comfy.

★ 10-position headrest adjusts easily for you growing child.

★ Simply Safe Adjust Harness System adjusts the height of the harness and headrest in one motion.

★ InRight LATCH system for an easy, one-second LATCH attachment; easy-to-read level indicator for hassle-free installation.

★ Engineered & rigorously crash tested to meet or exceed US Standard FMVSS 213; Extend2Fit convertible car seat has been side-impact tested for occupant retention solely with the built-in 5-point harness system.

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– Can only be used up to 65lbs.

5. Graco SlimFit All-in-One Convertible Car Seat 

Recommended Weight: 5lbs to 100lbs

Colors: 2 Options

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $181.83- $195.49

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– The best choice for smaller cars. This car seat is narrower than the others and is perfect for small backseats.

★ All-in-One seat grows with you child from 5-100 lb, rear- to forward-facing and becomes a belt-positioning booster; save space in your back seat with unique rotating cup holders

★ Simply Safe Adjust Harness System adjusts the height of the harness and headrest; integrated harness storage compartment holds unused harness straps while the seat is a belt positioning booster

★ Engineered & crash tested to meet or exceed US standard FMVSS 213; the SlimFit car seat has been side impact tested for occupant retention solely with the built-in 5-point harness system; features EPS foam

★ InRight LATCH system for an easy, one-second LATCH attachment; 4-position recline helps keep you growing child comfy, in rear and forward-facing modes

★ Plush supports keep you child comfortable and are removable; washable seat cover is easy to access without removing the harness

★ Steel-reinforced frame provides strength and durability

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– A bit less cushion compared to the other ones.

6. Graco Size4Me 65 Convertible Car Seat Featuring RapidRemove

Recommended Weight: 4lbs to 65lbs

Colors: 4 Options

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $154.99- $179.99

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– The RapidRemove cover is awesome! While with other car seats, you have to physically take it apart to remove the cover from it, the RapidRemove cover comes off in less than a minute! No need to uninstall it.

★ Designed to help protect you rear-facing infant from 4-40 lbs. and you forward-facing toddler from 22-65 lbs.

★ Simply Safe Adjust Harness System adjusts the height of you harness and headrest to 8 positions, in one motion, to ensure that you child is always properly secured

★ Side-impact tested-in addition to meeting or exceeding all applicable U.S. safety standards, the Size4Me car seat has been side-impact tested for occupant retention solely with the built-in 5 point harness system Machine-washable

★ In Right LATCH system for an easy, one-second LATCH attachment.

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– Only goes up to 65lbs.

The Best Car Seat for Special Needs Twins

7. Graco 4Ever Extend2Fit All in One Convertible Car Seat

Recommended Weight: 4lbs to 120lbs

Colors: 5 Options

Lowest Price: Amazon.com

Price: $209.99- $349.99

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Below, we have outlined the pros and cons of this product:

Pros:

★ Advantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– Can use for up to 120lbs. It is the Ideal car seat for special needs kids who may need to remain in a car seat longer.

★ 4-in-1 seat grows with you child, so you can enjoy 10 years of use, from 4 to 120 lb

★ Extend2Fit 4-position extension panel provides 5″ additional leg room

★ Up to 50 lb rear-facing allowing you child to safely ride rear-facing longer plush inserts keep you child comfortable washable seat cover is easy to remove without removing the harness

★ Simply Safe Adjust Harness System headrest and Harness adjust together one-hand, 10-position adjustable headrest easily adapts for you growing child

★ In Right LATCH system for an easy, one-second LATCH attachment integrated belt lock-off for easy vehicle seat belt installation easy-to-read level indicator helps eliminate rear-facing installation guesswork

★ 2 integrated cup holders keeps you child’s drinks or snacks close at hand integrated harness storage compartment holds unused harness straps while in the belt positioning booster mode

★ Steel-reinforced frame provides strength and durability. Integrated harness storage compartment holds unused harness straps while in the belt positioning booster mode

Cons:

• Disadvantage over Other Convertible Car Seats in Above Table– This car seat is a bit more expensive than our other recommendations

In summary, there are two types of car seats you will need for your twins. The first car seat will be used for your newborn twins. It will include a base that remains in your car and a removable carrier. The removable carrier will allow you to transport your twins without waking them up.

The second type of car seat will be a convertible car seat. Some of the recommendations above will convert into a booster seat when your children no longer need the restraint portion.

One of the recommendations we have included will even allow you to use the car seat with a child up to 120 pounds. This would be our suggestion for children with special needs who will need to remain in a car seat longer.

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Being first-time parents raising twin babies can be daunting but Mom of twins, Anne Marshall shares some thoughts on making that important first year with your twins as enriching as possible.

For any Feeding Method You Use, Feed Them Together

I had been intending to breastfeed, but ultimately ended up bottle feeding.

When my partner first went back to work, I would feed them one at a time. One would be screaming while the other had their bottle.

It was stressful for all of us.

Then another twin mum told me how she propped hers up with cushions, so she could feed them at the same time. Perhaps if I hadn’t been so sleep deprived I could have thought of this myself? So, I put them in their car seats on the sofa and fed them together.

No waiting, no tears, genius! – the other mother, not me!

Routine, Routine, Routine

From a very early age, I decided to establish a routine for raising my twins.

They were fed at the same time, napped at the same time, played at the same time, we went for a walk after lunch at the same time which was also a nap time, and went to bed at the same time.

Funny enough, a mother of a singleton said to me that this must involve a lot of crying. Perhaps it sounded very regimented. I wasn’t a believer in crying it out, so this wasn’t the case, and if you get a feel for what your babies do naturally, getting them on a routine can happen quite cohesively and naturally.

The routine will change and adapt every couple of months as they change, but I found the structure helped me to organize myself, prevented me from getting overwhelmed in chaos, and allowed the babies to feel secure.

Don’t Worry About Quality Time When They are Infants

Obviously, it’s nice, when there are two adults around and they can have extra cuddles, or you can go a bit further afield more easily, but don’t worry that you aren’t doing swimming classes or any other class.

Of course, there are ways around these hurdles, but don’t put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Your twins are happy just to hang out with you, walk through the park, have a dance party at home, go for coffee. They have you, and they have each other.

They don’t need to be adding to the special skills section of their C.V at 5 months old.

If Your Twins are Born Prematurely, You Might Want to Read Up on That

Mine twins were born 5 weeks early and I really didn’t know anything about it.

My best baby- mama friend had a full-term singleton, who could put his pacifier in and out of his mouth all by himself, while we were at coffee, while mine were always fast asleep in the buggy (bonus, really).

Don’t compare what a full-term baby does to a premature baby. It usually all evens out quickly, or there may be things that show up in the future. For instance, my daughter is hyper-mobile which was picked up on by a physiotherapist when she was only 6 months.

This has affected some of her fine and gross motor skills. However, we can’t say for sure this was because she was born prematurely or not.

Every Stage Moves On

Sometimes when you’re in the thick of it, especially in a first year with twins, it can feel as if this stage is how your life will always be, and that can be overwhelming.

So, remember, if your twins don’t sleep through the night yet, or you’re alone a lot and your friends don’t understand what you’re going through, or whichever stage you’re at, ‘this too shall pass’.

These stages, especially in the first year of raising twins, move past so quickly as I mentioned before in the routines section. Just when you think you can’t go on anymore, they’ll start sleeping through the night, or you’ll meet a new friend etc., or they’ll start sitting up and playing differently, and life will change all over again.

Look After Yourself

People like to say, ‘if Mums not happy, the kids won’t be happy’.

That’s a little harsh if you are feeling unhappy, so don’t be hard on yourself. But, I do believe it’s O.K. to be selfish.

Take time for yourself. Take time out.

Keep something for yourself that makes you feel good, whether that’s yoga, a trip to the cinema, painting, work, or something where you can express yourself. It’s important to keep nourishing yourself because motherhood can be overwhelming, and you really can feel that you’ve lost your self. You’re still you. Don’t worry, you haven’t lost anything, only gained.

You don’t have to be the perfect Mum either, you’re just fine as you are, and you are perfect to your babies. The first year goes so fast, it really is only 12 months of little infants before you drift on to toddler-hood.

Good luck Mama, you can do it

Anne Marshall is a mother of 4 including twins and blogs on Huff Post, Parents U.K about twins, raising multiples and more, mothers, society etc. She currently resides in Cardiff, Wales.

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There are a few things you can do to prepare for your twins and ensure that you will be successful at breastfeeding them.

You CAN Breastfeed Your Twins

When I was pregnant with my twins, friends and even nurses would take one look at my breasts and my small physique and say, “There is no way your little body will be able to make enough milk to feed twins! You should stock up on formula now!”

I felt defeated before I had even begun.

However, I was determined to master breastfeeding twins and so I decided to learn everything I could about breastfeeding and get a plan in place for the day my boys arrived.

I am pleased to say my little 130lb body (when pregnant) gave birth to two healthy little boys and I breastfed them for 20 months.

The reason I was so successful was in large part to these 10 tips. While many well-meaning people will complicate breastfeeding, it is a very innate, natural action and one you can expect to quickly learn and feel comfortable with.

1. Use a Breastfeeding Pillow Designed for Feeding Twins.

My Brest Friend Supportive Nursing Pillow For Twins 0-12 Months, Plus-Size was the most helpful tool of all. It is soft and provides plenty of room for both babies. The strap is also awesome, as it keeps the pillow in place while you move your twins around and help them latch on correctly.

Colors: Light Green (Pictured), Dark Grey, Light Grey, Fireworks, and Black and White

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Price: $58.04- $67.99

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2. Wear Easy Access Nursing Tops and Nursing Bras.

In the beginning, you will find soft, comfortable 2-in-1 nursing tops with built-in bras to be extremely useful. While you are learning how to breastfeed your twins and your twins are feeding to often, you will find yourself constantly needing to expose your breast to feed. These tops also make it simple to breastfeed both twins at the same time.

Caramel Cantina 3 Pack Women’s Nursing Cami Built in Bra is a great 2-in-1 soft tank top and nursing bra. You can wear it by itself or under another loose top. It comes in many sizes and colors, thus matching everything. You will want to buy at least a few packs of these because in the beginning, milk will leak and babies will spit up on you.

Colors: Black, White and Charcoal (3 Pack), Navy, Burgundy and Teal (3 Pack), Black (3 Pack)

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Price: $36.99 (Pack of three)

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Having plenty of comfortable nursing bras is also important. When your milk supply is first coming in and your twins are learning how to breastfeed, it will messy. You will find yourself often needing to change your bra. You will also need to wear a bra all the time in the beginning because your breasts will leak milk.

Therefore, you will want to have comfortable bras you can wear all day and night.

The 3 PACK Full Bust Seamless Nursing Maternity Bras with Extenders & Clips is the perfect nursing bra bundle.

We recommend you buy at least three of these packs to get started. The extender will be great right after you give birth before you lose your pregnancy and while your milk supply is adjusting. The clips allow you to connect the two straps in the back to hide them when wear tank tops or other sleeveless shirts.

Colors: Black, Pink & Nude (3 Pack), Nude (3 Pack), Black (3 Pack), Black, Grey & Nude (3 Pack)

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Price: $36.99 (Pack of three)

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3. Have Plenty of Breast Pads and Nipple Cream on Hand.

When your milk first comes in and your twins begin breastfeeding twins, your body may make more milk than your twins will need. Often, mother’s of twins find their breasts leak a lot in the beginning.

Breastpads will absorb the leaking milk and keep wet stains from appearing on your clothing.

There are two main types of breast pads new mothers can choose between: disposable and reusable.

Disposable breast pads are intended for one time use. Reusable breast pads can be washed and reused.

Lansinoh Nursing Pads, 4 Packs of 60 (240 count) Stay Dry Disposable Breast Pads are by far the most well-known and most absorbent breast pads. We suggest you buy them in bulk because you will use quite a few during the first few months.

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If reusable breast pads seem to be your preferred choice, the Organic Bamboo Nursing Pads (14 Pack)+Laundry Bag & Travel Bag bundle is a great choice. Reusable breast pads will end up saving you a lot of money, but you must be willing to do some extra laundry.

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When you and your twin babies are first learning to breastfeed, the babies often do not latch properly. This can cause you nipples to become sore and sometimes cracked. By keeping your nipples lubricated with a good nipple cream, they will heal more quickly and help you and your twins quickly experience the joys of nursing.

We have found Motherlove Nipple Cream Certified Organic Salve for Sore Cracked Nursing Nipples to be the best and safest on the market. It is 100% organic and cruelty-free in their testing practices. It is all natural and doesn’t need to be washed off before breastfeeding.

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4. Use a Quality Breast Pump

One of the items moms of twins should invest in is a hospital grade breast pump. Even if you are not planning on bottle feeding your twins in the beginning, a breast pump may be needed if one of your twins needs to stay in the hospital after birth or if you want to increase your milk supply.

The Medela Pump in Style Advanced Double Electric Breast Pump with On the Go Tote is an awesome all-in-one system. Medela is the most well-known and recommended brand on the market. All of their products come with a lifetime warranty and their service department is excellent.

While the bag this breast pump comes with may not be your first choice, this bundle is a great deal and has everything you will need to immediately begin pumping.

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5. Meet with a Lactation Consultant as Soon as Your Twins are Born.

As soon as your twins are born, you will be moved into a postpartum room. That is when you should immediately ask to see a Lactation Consultant.

The Lactation Consultant will help you learn how to hold each twin, get them to open their mouths wide and latch properly. By getting this teaching during your very first feeding, you will save yourself from pain and frustration. While you may feel extremely excited about breastfeeding your new babies, we highly recommend, you wait for the Lactation Consultant.

Generally, as a mother of twins, she will try to come see you as soon as you arrive in your room. She will sit with you and warmly walk you through the process of breastfeeding your twins.

Throughout your stay, we suggest you ask the Lactation Consultant to periodically observe you while you breastfeed each of your twins.

During the first days, be patient with yourself and your babies as you all learn together.

Before leaving the hospital, the Lactation Consultant should provide you with the number to a consultant in your area. You can also look up Lactation Consultants in your area here.

6. Master Breastfeeding One Twin at a Time.

When you are first learning how to breastfeed your twins, we recommend you feed them one at a time until they are both latching on correctly. This usually takes 4 or five days.

The Lactation Consultant will help you know when you are ready to begin feeding your twins at the same time. While you may feel motivated to quickly begin feeding them together, it will be much easier if you take your time and focus on each individual twin first. You will have many amazing months of feeding them at the same time.

6. Learn to Breastfeed Your Twins Together.

As soon as you feel comfortable feeding each of them individually, it is time to learn how to breastfeed them at the same time. This might seem difficult at first, but it will save you hours each day while your twins are eating every few hours.

When your twins are first born, they will sleep often and very soundly. In order to get them on the same schedule, we let the first twin to awaken determine when to feed them both.

When one twin wakes up hungry, gently wake the other one as well. It may be difficult at first to get the second one to wake up, but once they are both awake, offering them each a breast. Almost always, they will both feed.

If you continue to wake the second twin up when the first one is hungry, you will quickly get your twins on the same schedule. It will be an amazing feeling when this process begins to become easy. You will get more sleep and your breasts will both be emptied at the same time.

As your twins get older and begin to develop head control, breastfeeding them becomes even easier. The early days of breastfeeding are the hardest, but going slowly and taking the time to use proper techniques and practices will benefit you immensely in the future.

7. Drink Lots of Water to Maintain Your Milk Supply.

Breast milk is composed of 90% water.

During birth and for days after giving birth, your body will lose a lot of blood. Blood is composed mostly of water. Therefore, you will likely be extremely dehydrated.

One of the biggest factors that will affect your milk supply in the early days is your water intake. This is a crucial time as your body is figuring out how much milk to make for your twins. If you are severely dehydrated in the early days, your body will not establish the correct amount of milk supply.

You will probably notice that soon after you begin nursing your little one you will become thirsty. The oxytocin that your body releases during breastfeeding is responsible for triggering your thirst. This is your body’s natural way of ensuring that you are getting enough water to make breast milk.

As soon as you can, begin re hydrating your body. This can easily be done simply with water. During breastfeeding one baby, you should drink an extra quart, or 32 ounces, per day.

When breastfeeding twins, you should drink an additional 64 ounces of water each day.

In the early days, breastfeeding can take a long time. It will be hard for you to get up to get yourself water during long stretches of time. Always have a glass or a bottle within arms reach so you don’t have to sit there thirsty until everyone is done nursing.

8. Take Natural Supplements if You need to Increase Your Milk Supply.

Milky Way Natural Breastfeeding Supplement for Lactation Support is formulated to help the body naturally increase your milk supply. Their advanced formula contains super-effective herbs, such as fenugreek, alfalfa, fennel, nettle, milk thistle and more. of all the natural supplements intended to increase milk supply, this has the most complete blend.

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Another excellent way to increase your milk supply is by drinking tea specially formulated to help your body make more milk. Pink Stork Lactation: Smooth Vanilla Nursing Support Tea -Organic Loose Leaf Tea is a delicious choice that tastes great hot or cold.

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In summary, breastfeeding twins will be one of the most rewarding and bonding experiences of your life. While you await the arrival of your babies, you may begin to feel worried that you will not be able to breastfeed them. That is normal.

The 8 tips I have outlined above will help you to prepare for your twins and begin breastfeeding them with confidence from the very beginning.

By purchasing the items above and preparing to immediately reach out to the lactation consultant in your hospital, you will begin the journey of breastfeeding your twins with confidence.

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Multiple multiples? Where do you even start to count your blessings?

At the best of times, parenting is a challenge. Add several sets of children all going through the “terrible twos,” the “ferocious fours” or the troubled teenage years at the same time, and the thought is often enough to make someone go a bit crazy. Where do you find the strength and energy? What kind of support is available? How does your marriage survive when it seems that life is focussed on the children? How do you have a normal life, and what does a “normal” life even look like?

We sat down with two families in Canada’s Golden Horseshoe to discuss parenting multiple sets of twins, to learn what their lives are like, what unique challenges they deal with every day, and what advice would they give to other parents in the same parenting boat.

Multiples often run in families so news of expecting twins is not that surprising for some families. For Kim Tait of Oakville, the news that she was expecting a second set of twins wasn’t as surprising or shocking as you might think. She says, “I just knew. I think your brain prepares you for this type of shocking information. We weren’t trying for more kids, so when I got pregnant again, I knew it was (twins) and wasn’t surprised when they told me.” For Lyndsay Petican of Burlington, the news was taken pragmatically. “We were like yes, this is what we do! We make twins. We already had the infrastructure, like car seats, cribs, and highchairs,” she explains.

We asked both families what they did differently with each set, or wish they had. For the Taits, they agree they became smarter the second time around. “With the first set we both tried to be up all the time to feed them; we realized with the second set that it’s impossible. So, we split the night up, doing shift work. My husband liked staying up late so as soon as my older daughter went to bed, I’d go to bed and wake up at 4 a.m. and start my day then. The babies would eat around 2-3 a.m. and then again around 5-6am. Feeding two crying babies in the middle of the night on no sleep is no party, but we found a system and stuck with it. It became easier with time.” For Lyndsay she explains that she definitely has a different viewpoint on parenthood, perhaps as any second time parent might. She tries to remember that “everything is a stage, and where newborn twins is really hard, it too is just a phase.”

As her kids started school, Lyndsay is learning from her actions with her older girls. She kept her daughters together until grade one, and then had them separated in school, as they began wanting their own friends and experiences. She’s been thinking of separating her sons earlier so they can grow more independent.

If there’s any advice either family would have liked to have in advance of having their second set of twins, it would be, according to Lyndsay, to “just be kind to yourself, try not to fixate on what you can’t do, and enjoy the things that you can. It is really hard at the beginning but it pays off in dividends doubly later.” For Kim, she said knowing what to expect probably made things a bit worse. “I knew it was going to be insane, and it was. We had four little boys in diapers at the same time.”

Many couples struggle with maintaining the romance in their marriage once kids come along. We wondered if having not just one, but two sets of children, and maybe even a singleton or two in addition, changes this part of their relationship dramatically? Or, does it strengthen a marriage in ways other couples might not understand? According to Lyndsay Petican, “My husband and I work as a great team… we have to. We try to get alone time where we can by grabbing a breakfast date or a quiet cup of coffee before all the kids awaken. We found it was easier when I was working to meet for breakfast rather than going out for dinner. We had a lot of our date nights by just making dinner and hanging out. Once every couple of months we go out for dinner and every year we have a kid-free vacation to Vegas or Nashville to relax.”

Kim’s experience is a bit different. “I would be lying if I said it didn’t have an impact on our marriage; this is hard. We are both working full-time, I commute an hour and all the kids have activities, so we are running in different directions all the time. Our kids are still young, so they need us for a lot of things; for now, we divide and conquer and at the end of the day we are exhausted and start all over again the next day. We don’t have a lot of time to just sit and talk, but as they say, this is a season of life, it’s constantly evolving and changing. Date nights are a challenge too. They get expensive quickly as we tend to have to hire two people to watch the kids. Add dinner and a movie and the cost adds up. So we don’t get to do it much unfortunately.”

Self-care is an aspect of life that is challenging for all parents, but even more for parents of multiples. Lindsay says her children’s nap time is very important to her, she tries to work out during one of the nap times, and online shopping has become very important to her, in order to keep her sense of self sometimes.

Support from family and the community is also invaluable as parents of multiples sometimes feel isolated because they can’t find time for themselves or time to leave the house to run errands or take part in recreational programs with all their children. Both women agree that without either a nanny or family members to help out, life would most definitely be more challenging. Lyndsay explains that with her first set of twins she “hung around singleton moms and felt very sad about the activities that I didn’t feel I could manage on my own (i.e., swimming, hikes). I spent a good bit of time grieving the maternity leave that I thought I would have. On my second mat leave with my boy twins I hung out with a lot of twin mamas; we mostly hung out at other people’s houses to keep all of our kids contained and less stress-free.” For her own well-being, and so an outing wouldn’t end up in tears (either the children’s or her own) she stopped signing up for programs that she knew were going to be unsuccessful for their family dynamic. Lyndsay also had support from her Mother-in-Law who would watch the boys to allow her to leave the house by herself and run errands. That was a much-needed break.

For the Taits, who have no immediate family nearby and have full-time jobs that often require travel, a nanny was the only way they could survive. When the nanny wasn’t available or one of the parents was out of town, their kids became used to doing their homework at a sports arena while the other siblings had a hockey practice. “We just drag them all along,” she explains.

We wanted to know if there exists any extra government of community support for parents with multiples. Lyndsay explains that she joined a twin mom group and they were a great support during maternity leave. “Maternity leave with twins is not relaxing, a longer maternity leave of two years would’ve really been great as you only received one year (when I was on mat leave).” She recently began volunteering with the Halton Breastfeeding Connection to support new moms and new twin moms with breastfeeding. It’s her way of giving back. For Kim, she wishes there had been more financial support when they had to have two nannies. “There is a maximum we can deduct for childcare on our taxes; we have definitely exceeded that each year. I wish there was flexibility there!” They have, however, found some support with rEcess Oakville, a respite program that offers free care to children with disabilities and their siblings while their parents enjoy a night out once a month.

For all the joys that multiple multiples bring, there are of course, emotional challenges. As might be expected, for both women, finding individual time to spend with each child is difficult but much-needed. For Kim, who has an older singleton daughter, she especially tries to spend some alone time with her because she knows her daughter needs that alone time the most. Both women agree that finding quality one-on-one time with each child is what they have the most mom guilt about.

Every parent wishes they could bond equally with their kids. For parents of multiples, it can seem like a daunting or impossible pipe dream. Lyndsay’s advice to new parents of multiple multiples is “be kind to yourself. Some days one child is needier than the other and then the next day it changes. It will not always be fair and equal, but you try to do the best for those kids and their own temperaments.” For Kim, her family has its own challenges, as her two youngest twins both have special needs, so she realizes she must spend more time with them. Her son Zackery is on the autism spectrum and she expresses, “he has definitely taught me so much about humans in general. I thought I knew how to parent, but boy has he challenged me in absolutely every way. There are days where all our focus is on him. His twin has moderate to severe ADHD, so he is always very busy. I make a point of spending time with my daughter alone, but I know this is a constant challenge and I’m very aware of it.”

Aside from bonding and finding time for each child, what seems to be the biggest challenge of having multiple multiples? “The price of daycare for multiples is crippling,” says Lyndsay. It can be as much as a second mortgage. Kim explains for them, it’s time management and not having a big safety net. That frustration of the unknown from day to day, makes this really hard sometimes. It especially hits home when there are health emergencies and everything seems so overwhelming.

We wondered how their families are coping with the isolation and quarantine of Covid-19? Lyndsay admits, “So much togetherness time has the increased the sibling fighting. My kids are happiest when we go out on adventures, but with limited adventures and limited contact with friends, especially for my 10-year-olds, this has been especially difficult. But in many ways, it has been easier too. Lindsay explains, “Our mornings are way less hectic. We let the girls sleep in. We don’t have to rush to make lunches. My husband has been home to help a lot more as he hasn’t been travelling for work.” And Kim agrees, “I think there is where big families shine. I can kick them out into the backyard, and they all play together and can entertain themselves (and each other). I think having a single child might be harder than five!”

In conclusion, the greatest joy for both families is seeing how all their children interact and love each other. For Kim, who herself is an only child, she didn’t understand the dynamics of siblings before she had children. “Watching the five of them interact is fascinating to me. I love just sitting back and watching them work through something together without us intervening. My daughter being the oldest, tends to take charge and all four boys listen to her lead. I think she will benefit from this role in her own life. And certainly, for the kids to have each other once we are gone is reassuring.”

For parents of multiple multiples, life is definitely busy, crazy, fun, exhausting and so much more. It’s parenting, multiplied. It’s also blessings, multiplied.

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